Dating Tips Part 2
Dating Advice When it is time
7. Get yourself groomed.
I know we said 'be yourself', but if yourself is sloppy, good luck.
- Men: If you have a beard or mustache then groom it. If you do find the woman that at least will deal with it, then it least keep it groomed. Especially if you are gray, nothing seems less sexy that a bushy santa clause.
Get your back groomed are shaved if you are going outdoors. Many women like a hairy chest, but the hairy back starts falling into the sasquatch look.
- Women: Shave your legs and under your arms. Yes, we know women who "don't". But I can guarentee you that 90% of the women that don't shave regularly are already dating or married. Compared to the 90% of women who don't shave, and are complaining they can't have a steady date.
Most Americans prefer groomed, face, legs, genitalia, under-arms.. so if you want to avoid making a bad first impression, get those clippers out.
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8. Get your attitude right.
No-one finds negativity and woe-is-me conversations attractive. You might have some sorrow, but pathetic and sexy don't mix. If you aren't sure if you are filled with negativity do these simple things:
- Be aware that most people are negative oriented. Why? Because being negative takes ZERO effort, any dumb-ass can point out what is wrong, it takes effort to make it right.
- Who do you spend long conversations with? Most negative people can talk on and on. But here is something important for you to remember: Most positive, good attitude people, will not spend much time around negative, crappy attitude people. They are too much of a drain.
9. Get Social
If you want to find someone to date go to the places where they may hang out. Gym's, cooking class, dance clubs, special parties, etc. Don't go to church, just because someone told you too. Please make more effort than that. :)
10. Date to Date
Do not make it more than it is. Get to know someone, spend some time, if you like, spend more. People who are looking for Mr. or Mrs. Right are often looking for them pre-made. It seldoms works like that. Find the raw materials, then become the shaper of what you like.
Dating Tips Part 1
Some Experienced Advise on Dating - Part One
So, you are ready to pull anchor and get in the dating game. Fantastic!
Whether you are a lady or a gent, I have worked with many on their relationships, and this advice transcends gender. We will get specific on gender later.
Dating is a verb, not a destination, so before you get going here is the time tested advice:
1. Know why you are dating, honestly.
Doesn't this seem simple? However, this is paramount before you get involved. If you are too busy to have a serious relationship, or if you are just trying to having some occassional attention, then all that is fine. Just make sure you know the nature of kind of dating we are talking about. This will dictate where you go, who you get involved in, is it based more on attraction and fun, or solid maturity.
Often people will tell me they are lonely and want someone to talk with, yet they are so frantic in their personal lives they are late to most things. If it is just for sexual fun or something that is to remain un-pressured, that is fine too. Just know what you are interested and what you can do.
This will help you filter who you let in..
2. Keep it vague in the beginning.
There are those who spill their guts in the very beginning. It is wise to share a little and see what you get back. If you are the one that is doing all the talking and sharing, then you are getting out of balance in the beginning. Give a little, get a little, if you don't get a return on your investment..
3. If you are balanced in the beginning, dating will move at a natural pace.
There is physical balance, but you have to stay mentally and emotionally balanced too. This does not mean be stoic or robotic, but it does mean that you have stay in yourself. If you find that you are always the one to initiate conversation, dinner, getting together, touching, then you are out of balance.
4. Do not date in fear.
If you behave out of fear, everything is 'reactionary'. You are headed straight to the 'walking on eggshells' platform. Worse, if you are dating someone that has an agenda, you are now hooked. Manipulators LOVE to keep you on the guessing edges.
5. Be prepared for to find people as they are while dating.
That was my personal motto was simple from the time I was 21, I modeled and wond bodybuilding until I was married and now a have lovely family at 40. When you don't accept people for who they are, you can easily make these mistakes:
-You may see someone who is great sexually, but you don't trust them very deeply.
-You may see someone who you trust, but are not attracted too.
-You may be very attracted, but not do not find them to be as engaging as you prefer.
It may be that you have a couple of different dating scenes happening as you get a better feel of who they are.
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6. Be happy with yourself, before you get someone else in.
If you are unhappy with parts of yourself that really matter, then work on those before you get waist deep in a relationship. If you don't the relationship will certainly be in trouble, from the beginning. Have you ever tried to be happy with someone, that is unhappy with one of their CORE Components?